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Flirting Skills Workshop

Learn how to master couples communication with our life coaching sessions designed for singles & dating couples. 

Bill Thomason's 1-Day, 'Flirting Skills' workshop will be at NLP Coaching & Skills Training Institute, Phoenix, Arizona, Saturday May 5, 2018.  REGISTER NOW!  Call 602 321-7192 to register for the fun-filled, light-hearted, and playful workshop

Here's your Flirting Skills Tip of the Month:  Effective Use of Flattery

Flattery is a powerful tool that works even when a person knows it is just said just for effect.  Obviously, it works better when flattery is sincere.  Flattery can also be mutually rewarding when executed effectively.  And, that may not be as easy to pull off as one might think.  Here are some guidelines:

  1. Notice something specific that is obviously true and attracts attention about the person.  This could be hair color, style, or length, or it could be a dress or other clothing, shoes, or physical characteristic of the person, like dimples or freckles.  It shouldn't be the thing that everyone else has already noticed, however.    
  2. Consider what this person would most like to hear about themselves?  Get into her/his world.  If you know, or can find out, an area of  accomplishment or a hobby, or other activity that has not been overly acknowledged by other people, don't hesitate to mention it.
  3. Once you determine what is special or unique about the person, draw attention to it.  Be playful and confident.  Tone can make a big difference in the meaning of your message.

Flattery is most effective when it is unexpected or surprises the person.  It is better that it is a compliment, although, something a little risque or critical sometimes draws attention that gets the person involved.  And keep it personal.  Telling a company owner that she is "doing great things" for her company, is nice.  But saying that you love her "sense of humor" and her "smile" is more personal and could make her day.  A first compliment could be dimissed, but more often attracts positive attention.  A second compliment may seem suspicious if not executed effectively, but when pulled off with sincerity and/or humor, can be delightful and welcome.

Flirting Skills Article from Northside People newspaper, Dallas, Texas:

An NLP Based Workshop

"Hi there. "What's your sign?"

Sound familiar? Most people equate the approach above as part of the language used in flirting.  The "art of flirtation,” however, is far more than just a cunning phrase or worn out line.  And we are all involved in flirting all the time, whether in a social setting or a business situation.  Flirting is a natural part of our lives that has to do with our desire to achieve "rapport" with another person.

Have you ever met someone and immediately felt as if you had known that person all your life?  Well, that's rapport!  Rapport is the ability to communicate with another person in a fashion that goes beyond the normal defense mechanisms of the individual.  In the best case, "rapport" happens so naturally that you don't notice consciously how it happens.  You simply “feel good” about the other person.  It is as if they are “just like you".

Bill Thomason has developed a fun‑filled, NLP based “Flirting Skills" workshop that is designed to help you change old programming and learn specific new skills for gaining instant rapport with anyone, anywhere,...even the people who have been the most difficult for you to approach in the past.  NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is new technology about how the brain works and how your behavior is being constantly programmed by the language you use and by what you do.  NLP is a set of tools that can transform your ability to achieve any outcome you desire in life.

Flirting is a powerful tool.  As you learn the skills taught in this one-day workshop, your attunement to the signals of others is greatly enhanced.  As a result, you gain more flexibility in communicating with the individual that is in front of you at that particular moment.  These skills can help you to break down walls and barriers and enable you to communicate in a way that your partner will not read defensively.  As a result, he or she will gain interest and trust in you, and thus you build rapport.

"Attraction," explains Mr. Thomason, "happens when two people speak the same language.  However, only a small part of language is actually expressed by words.  A greater part, is tone of voice and body language."  The Flirting Skills workshop will teach specific skills for reading and understanding where a person is coming from including their stance, body movements, facial expressions, and language patterns and then incorporate that insight into your own personalized communication to that person?

Flirting skills can even enhance office and business relationships.  Flirting can help you gain rapport with an associate and influence him or her to your benefit.  These skills might help you get your project endorsed ... get a promotion or raise ... close a sale ... or make a friend.

Bill Thomason's Flirting Skills workshop also addresses the issue of "appropriateness" of flirting. As a natural outgrowth of learning the skills, Bill explains, "you tend to make fewer mistakes reading just what the other person means to say by his or her communication, and so you reduce the chances of misunderstandings.  And as become more conscious of how communication works, you learn to set your limits and boundaries more clearly.  This, in turn, reduces chances of exploitation in the workplace and may help to prevent sexual harassment. Some cases of harassment are a result of simply not knowing what the limits are; what is appropriate and what is not."

Bill Thomason's "Flirting Skills” program is a playful, light-hearted approach to discovering the resources you already have within you and gaining more access to those resources.


Reproduced from a 1992 newspaper article in Northside People, Dallas, Texas

REGISTER NOW!: Call 602 321-7192 to register for the fun-filled playful weekend workshop with world-class NLP Trainer Bill Thomason at the NLP Coaching & Skills Training Institute, 11811 N Tatum Blvd., Phoenix, Arizona, 85028. 

THE FEE: is only $237 per person, $420 for couples.  Single or in a relationship?  This training is for you.  Bring a partner.  Bring a Friend. 


FLIRTING SKILLS II - The follow-up training to the Flirting Skills Workshop. Call Bill for information.  602 321-7192.


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NLP Arizona, NLP Phoenix, NLP Scottsdale, NLP Sedona, NLP Tempe, NLP Carefree, NLP Cave Creek, NLP Chandler, NLP Tucson, NLP Paradise Valley, NLP Mesa, NLP Prescott, NLP Flagstaff, NLP Southwest USA.  Bill Thomason is available for coaching, speaking engagements, and training programs worldwide and has worked extensively throughout the US and Canada.