A comment from an NLP social media group referenced a trainer who chastized a participant for doing a hypnotic induction with his partner in an exercise instead of the specific exercise requested. Was the instructor guilty of stifling creativity? The answer is: I don’t know; I was not there. However, it has me thinking about training.
From the point of view of being an NLP Trainer, it is a challenge in any group of people with varying levels of NLP experience. To create value, I really have to find a point in a room where I can focus my training that does not lose the beginners and keeps the seasoned NLPers learning something new. This is an art form. I think I am really good at this and I get positive feedback most of the time. ‘There are no resistant students; only inflexuble trainers.’ I want to include or ‘utilize’ (Ericksonian) any behavior that comes up in my classes to move the group towards the learning I am going for and be open enough to include or harvest additional learnings.
Having said that, I find it is better in the debrief from an exercise when everyone in a class does generally the same exercise. I had a guy in an NLP Practitioner class who really was ADHD (forgive me for labeling). He had trouble sitting still. Since he knew some NLP already, he was running Bandler’s spinning exercise in about half the exercises (about 3 years before Bandler’s new book introduced the spinning technique). I still feel bad about having to censure my student, but it was necessary.
That wasn’t what we were doing at all and it was out of context for novice participants who partnered with him. Some things actually interfere with the learning of others. Let them learn the basics first. Although I tend to jump around a lot (options style) I want students to be able to make as many connections as possilble at each learning level and order makes a difference (procedures) in allowing that to occur. “Wax on; wax off” if you remember the training methodology from Miagi in the Karate Kid movie.
Was I being inflexible or controlling? If anything, I am more often criticized for being too permissive. I actually like a little chaos in a room. It adds a sense of excitment and adventure and often leads to new learnings. What do you think?