3 Keys to Success
One of the reasons for the extremely high success rate of NLP processes is that it starts with finding high quality information about what it is that a person wants. People often know what they don’t want, but they typically don’t have a clearly defined idea of what it is specifically that they do want or how they will know when they have it.
The three (3) Keys to Success are a simple version of an NLP protocol for developing Well Formed Outcomes.
The Three (3) Keys to Success
1. “What do you want?”
People tend to know what they don’t want in their lives anymore when they come for NLP Coaching. Often, however, they have not formulated what they do want. The first step, after establishing a high level of rapport and a safe environment with your NLP Success Coach, is to shift from what you don’t want to what you do want. Your coach will ask, “What do you want?”
2. “How will you know when you have it?”
The second thing that will happen is that your NLP Success Coach will elicit high quality information about what you will see, hear, feel, smell, and taste when you do achieve the outcome you say you want. The question is, “How will you know when you have it (outcome)? When people are in ‘stuck states’ or generally feeling unresourceful in life, they tend to cut down or limit their own natural creative processes. The skill of ‘imagination’ is critical to expanding your possibilities. When you have used your imagination to create the future that you do want, your NLP Coach will prompt you with questions about ‘how specifically’ and ‘with whom’ you want your outcome.
3. Vary your approach until…
NLP puts a high value on ‘behavioral flexibility.’ People often give up on their goals and lots of times it is right before the moment of achievement of the outcome. It is important to have a way to remember to keep moving toward the outcome you set for yourself, even in the face of circumstances that look like you are not achieving. People believe they are failing and they quit. The question your ‘inner NLP Coach’ (or your actual NLP Coach) should be asking at this point is, “What if there was no such thing as failure.” What if you knew that no matter what happened, you could not fail? That’s right, you might do lots of things. Thomas Edison, the man who discovered about a thousand ways to build a light bulb that does not work as a light bulb, is credited with the quote, “There is no such thing as failure; only feedback!”
In the study of highly success people, NLP has modeled people who keep their eyes on the goal regardless of external circumstances. They remember the outcome and are willing to vary their approach until they get to the outcome. They utilize enough sensory acuity and belief to realize that even when what they are doing does not work, they will keep varying their approach until they do get to the outcome, and like them, you can too.
By Bill Thomason, Executive Coach, Certified NLP Master Trainer