The NLP Love Yourself Pattern
Purpose: to increase self worth, build a
more complete identity, and become more integrated as a person. It
is also good for ego strengthening.
Description: this process is designed to
help a person move from SELF CONTEMPT to SELF LOVE. At the very
least the process is useful in developing self appreciation.
Credit: This pattern is adapted from Suzi
Smith and Tim Halbom by L Michael Hall.
Note: the process is best with a partner
but can be done alone. If there is any difficulty after #2, find
someone to work with will be empathetic and encourage you to access
useful representations. .
- Access a 'Loving Model.' a.
Remember an example a time when you were doing something you deeply
enjoyed. If you are not already experiencing that you are in
the event, move into it and notice the feelings and thoughts.
b. Now, think of a time when you experienced that someone cared
about you intensely, even if for only a moment.
- Describe the 'loving model.' Describe this person'
qualities and attributes. Explore how you know you are loved by this
person (loving model).
- Take 2nd position. Imagine you can now float into
the body of the other person (loving model) and notice what you SEE.
Then notice what words you are using as the 'loving model.' And
notice the feelings toward you. Notice how you look through
the eyes of the the 'loving model' as you become aware of how how
this enhances your experience for knowing you are loved and
loveable.
- Anchor the feelings. Go into the state of being
loved by this person or 'loving model.' Anchor visual, then
auditory, and then kinesthetic.
- Experience receiving love. Fully receive the love
sent to you from teh other person. Experience what being
looked at with loving eyes is like. Receive the loving
feelings. Appreciate your loveable qualities. From 1st
position, now, what do you see, hear, feel. Allow yourself to
experience love and acceptance.
- Anchor and Amplify the state. Notice how you
created the state of feeling 'loveable.' Recall all the
information about yourself. Take it in. And then enrich
the sense of your loving self.
- Test and Future Pace. Imagine a situation that in
the past might have had you respond in some unresourceful manner
toward yourself, but now you have these loving model feelings as
your resource state and imagine a movie of yourself interacting in
the future movie with the new resources. Notice what is
different now. Pick another example in the future and
experience it with the new resources. Congratulate yourself
for making these changes now.
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Bill Thomason
Your NLP
Success Coach
and Certified
NLP Trainer
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