"Hi there. "What's your sign?" Sound familiar? Most people equate the approach above as part of the language used in flirting. The "art of firtation,” however, is far more than just a cunning phrase or worn out line. And we are all involved in flirting all the time, whether in a social setting or a business situation.
Flirting is a natural part of our lives that has to do with our desire to achieve "rapport" with another person. Have you ever met someone and immediately felt as if you had known that person all your life? Well, that's rapport! Rapport is the ability to communicate with another person in a fashion that goes beyond the normal defense mechanisms of the individual. In the best case, "rapport" happens so naturally that you don't notice consciously how it happens. You simply “feel good” about the other person. It is as if they are “just like you".
Bill Thomason has developed a fun filled, NLP based “Flirting Skills" workshop that is designed to help you change old programming and learn specific new skills for gaining instant rapport with anyone, anywhere,...even the people who have been the most difficult for you to approach in the past. NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is new technology about how the brain works and how your behavior is being constantly programmed by the language you use and by what you do.
NLP is a set of tools that can transform your ability to achieve any outcome you desire in life. Flirting is a powerful tool. As you learn the skills taught in this one-day workshop, your attunement to the signals of others is greatly enhanced. As a result, you gain more flexibility in communicating with the individual that is in front of you at that particular moment. These skills can help you to break down walls and barriers and enable you to communicate in a way that your partner will not read defensively. As a result, he or she will gain interest and trust in you, and thus you build rapport.
"Attraction," explains Mr. Thomason, "happens when two people speak the same language. However, only a small part of language is actually expressed by words. A greater part is tone of voice and body language." The Flirting Skills workshop will teach specific skills for reading and understanding where a person is coming from including their stance, body movements, facial expressions, and language patterns and then incorporate that insight into your own personalized communication to that person? Flirting skills can even enhance office and business relationships. Flirting can help you gain rapport with an associate and influence him or her to your benefit. These skills might help you get your project endorsed ... get a promotion or raise ... close a sale ... or make a friend.
Bill Thomason's Flirting Skills workshop also addresses the issue of "appropriateness" of flirting. As a natural outgrowth of learning the skills, Bill explains, "you tend to make fewer mistakes reading just what the other person means to say by his or her communication, and so you reduce the chances of misunderstandings. And as become more conscious of how communication works, you learn to set your limits and boundaries more clearly. This, in turn, reduces chances of exploitation in the workplace and may help to prevent sexual harassment. Some cases of harassment are a result of simply not knowing what the limits are; what is appropriate and what is not."
Bill Thomason's "Flirting Skills” program is a playful, light-hearted approach to discovering the resources you already have within you and gaining more access to those resources.
IT IS ABOUT LIVING YOUR LIFE MORE FREELY..., WITH MORE LOVE, MORE JOY, MORE PASSION, MORE CONFIDENCE, AND MORE WHOLESOME FLIRTATION.
The article above is reproduced from a 1992 newspaper article in Northside People, Dallas, Texas
FLIRTING SKILLS PATTERNS
Anchoring Values Pattern
(Context: Man wanting to attract a woman, but works for woman to man, too.)
After starting a conversation, let her (or him) speak and listen to her specifically listening for the values in her communication. When you hear value words, speak them back to her as soon as possible in the conversation and anchor them. For instance, you can anchor the value words by touching her shoulder every time you say one of her value words to her. Say it back to her just the way she says it for maximum effect. When you have anchored several values and you want to remember them, say something like this:
When you think about the perfect love (pointing to self). Someone who would allow you to FALL DEEPLY IN LOVE, (name of person). NOW WITH ME I think you would start to FEEL AN INCREDIBLE CONNECTION and SENSE THAT TOTAL (list values here to fire off the anchor by touching the shoulder again just the way you did before when you first anchored them.) And when THAT'S HAPPENING WITH ME, (point a finger or thumb to her and then to yourself) find that you quickly discover that all those inhibitions and restraints that may have seemed like chains (point away as if to some other person or persons) with someone else are now with this new person (pointing to self), thin, fine delicate threads that just snap (snap your fingers) with the touch of a hand (fire off the value anchors) such that you begin to open yourself up completely and allow someone new to come deep inside releasing all those feelings in a flood to the point where you come to the same conclusion over and over again that this person is someone you can imagine years into the future still feeling that incredible sense of connection and realizing today IS the inevitable start of it wasn't it.
However you would just do that, you would begin to feel magically enchanted and so deeply in love you would let yourself go completely.
Wouldn't it be great to experience that and let it happen?
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Flirting Peak Experience Linguistic Pattern
The pattern described here as a man attracting a woman. It is a seduction-type script. However, the basic script can be adapted to install altered states and test the waters in virtually any situation. The wording may need to be changed a bit. Here's the script:
You: (Ask:) Can you remember the last time you had a peak experience? ...like climbing a mountain...or watching a beautiful sunset...or the first time you looked at someone (note: point to yourself) and recognized YOU REALLY LOVE THIS PERSON (point to yourself again).
Her: Sure....
You: What was that like?
Her: (Here you should KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED and let her describe it....and LISTEN carefully. She'll give you LOTS of information and you want to repeat her words back to her in conversation as immediately as possible).
You: That's really interesting. You know, I find it so great how YOUR MINE can be going along in one direction, you know, in an everyday ordinary state, and then SUDDENLY for whatever MYSTERIOUS reason, you just GO INTO A MUCH DIFFERENT STATE...a state where YOUR MINE is so in touch with the MYSTERY and the WONDER and the beauty of life (point to yourself). And sometimes it's like in YOUR MINE, you just SLOW TIME DOWN, and the whole world stops, as you just LET YOURSELF GO WITH THIS (point to yourself). Can you FEEL THAT (reach out and touch person to anchor the state) is an incredible thing to experience..WITH ME..NOW, I know that for a lot of people different things can trigger that.
Her: God...yeah...I LOVE the way you talk...it's like your inside my soul. (or whatever she really says)
You: Well, thank you (name of woman). And you know, for a lot of people falling in love, or orgasm are peak experiences, but for me, it's music. Like, the other night I was listening to Mozart, and I don't know if you are familiar with him or not, but some of his stuff is just a series of short little musical segments...like little pecks on the cheek, and with some of his stuff those segments just GET LAID Debbie, from end to end, and keep getting repeated. But his really great stuff is composed of these long, slow, lingering movements...they're like long, slow, lingering kisses...long slow lingering caresses, and you just FEEL ALL OF THAT ALL OVER YOUR BODY when you LISTEN...TO ME..NOW..it's an incredible thing...you know.
(anonymous: I don't know who wrote this script)
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Flirting Skills
Flirting is a natural part of communication. Learn to do it with conscious intention and know what response you are getting in this 2 evening workshop. $50 each evening or $75 for twice- monthly membership.
